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old shoes? I dont think so. And if JLo were going to go to bed with you, would you use your old moves? Of course not. Youd try every trick in the book to make her feel great, and you should do the same for your partner. She may not be JLo (or whomever you fantasize about taking to that deserted island), but if you treat her as though she is, youll both wind up profiting from the experience. And by the way, ladies, this applies to you, too. Whether you initiate the change, or simply allow your partner more room to explore, you need to be open to new ways of making love as well.   Im not saying that you have to go to Fantasy Island every time you make love. Often you both have just enough energy to have sex, but not enough to be creative. Even if you make love the same way nine out of ten times, at least that tenth time, try something a little different. You can use the memories of those more creative times to add sparkle to all of your other sexual episodes. On the other hand, if you stay in the same rut, youll only get more and more entrenched in your ways, and then youll never be able to get out.   Whats the worst that can happen if you try a new move or position (see Chapter 9 for a selection)? Maybe one or both of you wont be able to sustain the position or have an orgasm. So you miss one orgasm, no big deal. On the other hand, if you decide that you like a new position, it can bring you many, many orgasms over the course of a lifetime.       Dressing it up   This really did happen to me, and I think it will help demonstrate creativity in lovemaking. I was doing my radio show when I received a phone call from a man who said that hed been living with his girlfriend for several years, and they always had great sex. (He also made sure to tell me that they used contraceptives.) He said that they were getting married in a few weeks, and   he needed an idea to make the wedding night special.   I thought about it for an instant and then told him that, after his new wife came out of the bath- room, he should go in and take off all of his clothes, except for a top hat. I thought that was pretty clever, but he one-upped me. He asked me where he should wear the top hat!         Variety goes beyond how you make love. It can mean doing it someplace new, such as the kitchen floor or on the dining room table (just make sure that the legs are darn sturdy). You can add variety by making love at a different time of the day, such as early in the morning or in the middle of the afternoon. You can make love with most of your clothes on - or with only one of you naked and